The glow-up will not be televised, but there will be clues.
If you’re reading this, something has shifted. Maybe shattered. Maybe exploded. And right now, your nervous system is trying to make sense of a world that suddenly feels unsafe, unstable, unrecognizable.
First thing I want you to know: you’re still here. Your heart is still beating. Your breath is still moving through you. That’s not nothing—that’s everything.
When the Ground Shifts Beneath You
When everything falls apart, our most ancient survival instincts kick in. Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. Your body is doing exactly what it’s designed to do. But here’s what I’ve learned: we’re not just surviving this—we’re learning to thrive through it.
The clues your body is giving you right now matter. Are you sleeping? Really sleeping, or just collapsing? Are you eating foods that actually nourish you? Are you moving, even if it’s just walking to the kitchen?
Your breath is your anchor. When everything feels like it’s floating, your breath is the rope that pulls you back to shore.
The Messy, Beautiful Work of Feeling It All
Here’s what I know about grief: it’s not linear, it’s not pretty, and it’s not optional. But it is sacred. Your tears are not weakness—they’re alchemy. They’re literally transforming you at the cellular level.
The glow-up doesn’t start when you stop crying. It starts when you stop apologizing for feeling human.
I want you to know that however you’re feeling right now is valid. If you want to scream, scream. If you want to cry until you’re empty, cry. If you want to put on music and dance like you’re casting spells—because you are—dance.
Your emotions are not problems to be solved. They’re information to be honored. They’re energy to be moved. They’re part of the creative force that’s rebuilding you from the inside out.
The Shame That Keeps You Small
Can we talk about shame for a second? That voice that says you shouldn’t feel this way, you should be stronger, you should have seen it coming, you should have been different, better, enough.
Shame is the glow-up killer. It’s the voice that keeps you small, keeps you stuck, keeps you convinced that this pain means something’s wrong with you instead of something’s changing in you.
What if I told you that your sensitivity is not your weakness—it’s your superpower? What if your ability to feel deeply is exactly what’s going to heal you and help you love better?
Coming Home to Your Body
The glow-up starts with coming home to yourself. Your body is not your enemy—it’s your first and most loyal ally.
Find your pulse—either at your wrist or your neck. Feel that rhythm. That’s your life force. That’s your proof that you’re still here, still fighting, still becoming.
Place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly. Breathe with me. Four counts in, hold for four, out for six. In through your nose, out through your mouth like you’re blowing out a candle.
This is your grounding ritual. This is how you remind your nervous system: I am safe. I am here. I am learning to trust my body again.
The Water Element
Honor the water element—the flowing, the feeling, the letting go. This could be a literal bath ritual where you let yourself cry into the water and imagine it carrying away what no longer serves you.
Or maybe it’s creative expression—making a collage of how you feel, writing a letter you’ll never send, recording a voice memo where you say everything you need to say.
The practice is about letting it move through you instead of getting stuck in you.
Your Emotions Are Your Teachers
Your emotions are not your enemy. They’re your teachers. They’re showing you what mattered, what you valued, what you’re capable of feeling. That capacity to feel? That’s what’s going to make your glow-up so radiant.
Don’t rush this part. Don’t skip the mess. Your tears are applause for your courage to feel it all.
You’re not broken, beautiful. You’re just learning to be whole in a new way. The glow-up is not about becoming someone new—it’s about becoming who you always were before the world told you to be smaller.
Remember: The glow-up will not be televised, but your courage to feel it all is the first clue that you’re already transforming.