There’s a version of ‘main character energy’ that gets kind of misunderstood- the idea that being the main character means being the main character. Like it’s a competition. Like if someone else is shining, your light gets dimmer.
That’s scarcity talking. And it’s the thing that quietly destroys so many friendships and girl groups that could’ve been iconic.
scarcity vs. abundance — the real split
Scarcity mindset says: if she’s winning, there’s less winning left for me. If she’s getting attention, that’s attention I’m not getting. Her success somehow makes mine less likely.
Abundance mindset says: her win has literally nothing to do with my win. There is room for all of us. When one of us rises, she shows everyone else what’s possible.
The truth? We can all be main characters in our own lives simultaneously. It’s not a casting decision where only one person gets the role. Everyone’s living their own story.
✨ ‘Ponte tu corona y corona a tus amigas también.’ Put on your crown AND crown your friends too. That’s the real energy.
what real celebration looks like
It’s not just sending a quick ‘congrats!’ and moving on. Real celebration looks like: getting genuinely excited, asking questions about their win, hyping them up publicly and privately, making them feel seen and acknowledged. It’s giving them their full moment without making it about you.
It’s being excited for wins that have nothing to do with you. That’s the practice.
the culture you create when you celebrate
When you celebrate your friends fully and generously, you create something really powerful: a culture where wins are safe to share. Where success is something the group cheers for, not something that creates weird energy. Where everyone can actually be honest about good things happening in their life.
And then? When you have wins, your friends know exactly how to celebrate you. Because you modeled it first.
your weekly challenge
Celebrate a friend’s win this week- something big or small- with genuinely generous energy. Make it fully about them. Hype them up. Ask about it. Follow up later. Make them feel like their win matters to you.
Notice what shifts in the energy between you. Notice how good it actually feels to be that kind of friend. Queens crown queens. That’s the whole vibe. 👑